Capitalist Cravings + How to Resist Them
Those of you who know me, know how much I love Target. I used to literally walk laps through their aisles when I was pregnant. I know Target is a bit of a phenomenon in Mom World. There is something so satisfying in picking up an iced coffee at their Starbucks counter, slowly making your way through the dollar bin section, scanning all the latest trends in their clothing department, dropping in on the kid's section, and ending in the home decor (yes, I have a Target route... Don't judge me). Their open breastfeeding policy is a nice bonus, too.
That said, I feel like I am always at a crossroads when it comes to having and buying nice things for myself/my baby/my family/etc., and being critical of capitalism and the culture of excessiveness we live in. We recently went to Raices Cultura's Nepantleras meeting. The concept of Nepantla speaks to me so hard; not only do we straddle the worlds of being women of color living in the US, but also this: I love looking and feeling my best. I love dressing up and wearing makeup based on my many moods. Feeling sexy? Bring it, platform heels. Feeling low-key? Let's rock it, flat-brimmed fedora. I love my lipsticks in all of their glorious hues: deep purples, vivacious reds, and hot pinks. And yet...
One of the most important conversations I ever had with my therapist was about how we are too often taught to reinforce the patriarchy, but the single act of questioning and stopping ourselves in our tracks from perpetuating patriarchal thoughts and behaviors is revolutionary. Who else is going to do this hard work for us? We are our own guardians and protectors.
Similarly, I fight capitalism every day. I fight the inevitable cravings for new material things by creating, sewing, cooking, writing, drinking many Boba Milk Teas with friends, exercising, and so on... I want to raise a daughter who is confident in her own skin, who has a deep understanding of the dangers of waste, and materialism. I want her to fill her closet with books, not new sweaters. I struggle to be that person myself. But I'm trying.
Have a beautiful weekend, folks.
On Ximena: Baby Moccasins // Freshly Picked // Dress + Flower Crown // Target
On Mama: Diaper Bag // Ixchel Triangle // Dress + Sandals // Target // Hat // H&M // Purple Lipstick // Melt Cosmetics, By Starlight
Phone Case // Rifle Paper Co.